Sometimes I feel like quitting. It happens about once a month. Sometimes it gets pretty bad… full on ugly crying and everything.
I think it’s compounded by my history with mental illness. Depression, anxiety… and so usually around the time I’m having my ladies days (you know what I’m saying lol), it all comes up and feels hard. Everything feels heavy. I satrt to feel like it’s not worth it.
I think, that’s it, I’m done, I’m quitting my business. It would be so much easier to just have my 9-5 and collect my paycheck and just go on with life.
I think, I don’t need to have the lean body, who cares, I’m just going to eat whatever I want and it’s too stressful trying to make it to the gym all the time.
I think these things, and it hurts. I feel like a failure. I feel like I’ve been working on my goals so hard for so long, and at the same time I feel like I’m not doing enough, that I’m not doing things right.
This is all something that I genuinely struggle with every month. And I realized the other day that I have never shared it. I’ve never let you in on this little piece of Jessie. I don’t think I was intentionally hiding it or anything, but I also never thought to share it.
But the other day I realized, you know, I bet other women need to know that they are not alone if they have these feelings. I bet other women trying to lose weight, build muscle, run a business all feel guilty when they have these feelings - like they are the only ones.
So I decided that I’m going to share it. Because I believe you need to hear it.
Sometimes, I think it and feel it and may even cry, but I’m able to keep taking actions.
Other times when I am in this place, I completely shut down. I stop taking the actions on my business, I stop showing up. I do let my nutrition slip, not caring. I will go some time without working out or if I do it’s not with much effort.
So, why have I never actually quit anything? How am I able to keep going? How do I get myself out of that place, out of the downward spiral?
The biggest reason is because I have an ironclad support system. I have a business coach that checks in with me regulalry and has hour long phone calls with me once a week. She helps keep me focused on my vision, helps me set up intentional actions, so I can just keep putting one foot in front of the other.
I have a fitness coach. She helps hold me accountable to what I’m eating, if I’m doingmy workouts, and I have to send her updates and progress photos regularly.
My husband. He gets me. He is always there to give me love and affirmations, support and understanding.
And finally, I have made friends both online and in real life that are like me - I have fitness friends and entrepreneur friends. They get it. They know what this life is like, in a way nobody else can ever know.
I believe that surrounding yourself with an epic support system is the way to stay on track with any goal you have. You have to be around people that have been where you are. Be around people that are more successful than you, becuase being in their vibe and energy is going to elevate you.
Think about it this way - if you start a weight loss plan, and your friends are the type that want to go out every weekend to a bar to drink and have all the fried foods, what’s going to happen?
I know it sounds harsh, but they are going to pull you down to their level. And it’s likely not intentional, they just don’t know any other way than how they are acting.
On the flip side, if you are around people that are at the next level, what’s going to happen?
They will bring you up.
I’m not saying you can’thang out with any of your old friends anymore. I am saying that those can’t be your ONLY friends. You must have a next level support system in place. And you have to be willing to go to them when you need it.
That is what I do. I surround myself with other female entrepreneurs that make multple 6-figures or 7-figures a year in their business. I surround myself with women that care about health, that care about themselves enough to eat well and exercise.
And, I even hire these successful women to help me.
I believe in coaching so much, that I also have coaches. I would never trust a coach that doesn’t have a coach, to be honest. Because it either means they don’t believe in coaching enough to think they need one, or they think they know everything and don’t need any help with growth. Both of which are red flags in my opinion.
Yes I know lots of business things, and I know how to teach the business things. That is why my coaching practice now includes business coaching. BUT - I also know I have more to learn, more roomfor improvement, because I always want to up level and advance.
Yes I know lots of health, fitness and weight loss things, and I know how to teach these things. My clients are successful and that proves it. BUT - I also know I have more to learn, more to grow and develop.
There is nothing wrong with having a coach. Nothing wrong with needing a coach. In fact, quite the opposite. Having a coach MAKES you a more elevated next level person.
So, don’t worry, I am not quitting all the things. I am feeling like it today, even as I write this. But there is something therapeutic about writing it out, declaring it, owning. Which is also why I am such a huge fan of journaling lol.
I know I will feel better in another day or two. In the meantime, I am going to NOT shut down this time, and instead keep moving forward.
Because remember, life gets to be amazing. All you have to do is take action.
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